I am a single lady right now.
*Play Single Ladies*
I am single because I haven't met anyone who is worth the effort of sharing a part of my life with. I mean given the choice of being single or being miserable or annoyed with someone else, I chose being single.
Having said that, all my friends are in relationships and that is a lonely road to be on.
My one friend is getting married and I am in her wedding and her and her groom are great, but they are doing this thing where they only seem to want to do things with other couples. Now, I am totally fine with that. Have fun with other couples! Do things in tables of four and six! But, please don't forget to invite me to things or to just stop hanging out with me all together. Oh...they already did that.
I am very capable of hanging out with couples. Don't such face during the whole Dodger game and I am fine. What I am not capable of is people only being couple people. Like single people don't like Thai. I like Thai! I love it. And sometimes Thai places have this thing where there are five seats available so little spinster me can join. I swear I have seen it happen.
I do have a few single friends and to be honest they are more fun sometimes because they tend to have more money and they tend to be able to pick up and go have wine on a Friday night without checking in. It is a little easier to make plans with them. But doesn't mean they are they are the only ones I should have to hang out with.
And the weird thing is that even though I am only 27, being single means that everyone for some reason thinks there is something wrong with me or that I don't one day want to get married. Look, I would love to get married to a great guy who is honest, determined, funny, and has a good head of hair, but let's be real, I am not meeting these guys right now. I met one guy. Let's call him "Going through a Divorce Guy." He is handsome and ten years my senior but really is in a bad place going through a divorce with kiddos and I am not up for that. What 27 would be? Being single at 27 while everyone else is throwing budget weddings and complaining to me about having kids too early shows that I am not ready to settle down and don't want kids...yet.
I want a wedding. I don't want to have to worry about saving every single penny to have it like my friends are now. I want a kid someday but I also like being able to go out on a wednesday night and drink wine with my friend and not have to worry about my husband at home or finding a baby sitter.
Maybe I am better off single now anyways. Besides, don't people always say "When you stop looking is when you met what you really want." It better be because every time I break up with someone or mention that I am single, that is the line they feed me.
Although, television does tell me that if I am single usually that means there is something wrong with me or I am not good enough for someone to love. Ugh, forget it! I will be a hermit! :)
Saturday, October 4, 2014
Sunday, September 7, 2014
My First Adult Bachelorette Party
Let me start off by saying that I have never been to a bachelorette party in my adult life. I went to one for my aunt about 15 years ago but I played outside in the pool with my cousins while my aunt and mom celebrated my aunt's last day of single life. (disclaimer: My cousins were older than me and I knew how to swim, just in case there was worry!)
Friday night though, I attended my first "Last fling before the ring." The party was for my friend Vanessa, a co-worker and friend whose wedding I am in next month. As a bridesmaid I had hoped to help plan more of the event, but the Maid of Honor took care of things which, honestly as the one who plans everything, it was a relief. The decor was of course all phallic, with diamond glitter on the tables, balloons everywhere, girl power music, food, and alcohol. About fifteen girls were in attendance at Vanessa's house. Of those fifteen, I was one of three single women. Being single at a party where everyone is complaining about their husbands and boyfriends is bittersweet. Bitter because I am at a point in my life where I think I should be in a relationship and thinking about hitting in the dating game again. Sweet because, well, they were complaining about their significant others and the only person I have to answer to is me. "Priscilla, do you think you should have that extra slice of pizza? Yes, self. We deserve it!"
The bachelorette party did make me wonder about my future. Will I ever have such a party? Will it be something like the one I attended? (Probably not since I am less penis shaped everything and more "Can I get another round of wine for my girls here?") These questions are tough ones that most single ladies face. I mean, I am pretty sure this post is half of an episode of Sex and the City, so I can't be the only woman thinking about this.
Either way, I had a nice time, lots of laughs, found out way too much about my friend's, and had the most amazing cake pops of my life. (note to self: Hire Monica for all my events!)
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Friday night though, I attended my first "Last fling before the ring." The party was for my friend Vanessa, a co-worker and friend whose wedding I am in next month. As a bridesmaid I had hoped to help plan more of the event, but the Maid of Honor took care of things which, honestly as the one who plans everything, it was a relief. The decor was of course all phallic, with diamond glitter on the tables, balloons everywhere, girl power music, food, and alcohol. About fifteen girls were in attendance at Vanessa's house. Of those fifteen, I was one of three single women. Being single at a party where everyone is complaining about their husbands and boyfriends is bittersweet. Bitter because I am at a point in my life where I think I should be in a relationship and thinking about hitting in the dating game again. Sweet because, well, they were complaining about their significant others and the only person I have to answer to is me. "Priscilla, do you think you should have that extra slice of pizza? Yes, self. We deserve it!"
The bachelorette party did make me wonder about my future. Will I ever have such a party? Will it be something like the one I attended? (Probably not since I am less penis shaped everything and more "Can I get another round of wine for my girls here?") These questions are tough ones that most single ladies face. I mean, I am pretty sure this post is half of an episode of Sex and the City, so I can't be the only woman thinking about this.
Either way, I had a nice time, lots of laughs, found out way too much about my friend's, and had the most amazing cake pops of my life. (note to self: Hire Monica for all my events!)
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What Shoud A First Post Include?!
Ello there!
I have blogged a few places over my life, after all, I am in my twenties and let's face it...everyone blogs. Instagram, Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter; all they are are different forms of blogging. And blogging is today's journal entries.
So what does a blog need?
Photos? Yes. I will have plenty of photos. Vivid, colorful photos. Some of me, some of loved ones, some of things I see, some of artists I find, some of just the world around me.
Pop Culture References? Duh! I am in my twenties. About 80% of my conversations involve pop culture references. TV, movies, music, art and more!
Fashion? Yes. I love it. I have close to no money as I am a college graduate who is still searching for a full time career position, but I love nice fashion. I am talking true talent and beauty. Beautiful shapes, color, and originality are what I look for and always love a lead to a new designer to look and adore...even if from a distance.
Women Issues? Yes. As a lady, the issues that ladies face are important to me. I am in now way ashamed to say that I am a feminist because well, why wouldn't I be? I believe in myself as a woman and want equality and the best for women. Makes sense right? Feminist.
Inspiration? Wherever I can get it! Again, twenties, so I at times feel very lost in this world and inspiration keeps me hanging on. Wise words from loved ones and famous individuals will be shared. Plus, as a woman with lupus and fibromyalgia, some days are tough to get out of bed. Inspiration helps keep me on track!
Okay, I guess I filled my first blog post. What now?!
I have blogged a few places over my life, after all, I am in my twenties and let's face it...everyone blogs. Instagram, Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter; all they are are different forms of blogging. And blogging is today's journal entries.
So what does a blog need?
Photos? Yes. I will have plenty of photos. Vivid, colorful photos. Some of me, some of loved ones, some of things I see, some of artists I find, some of just the world around me.
Pop Culture References? Duh! I am in my twenties. About 80% of my conversations involve pop culture references. TV, movies, music, art and more!
Fashion? Yes. I love it. I have close to no money as I am a college graduate who is still searching for a full time career position, but I love nice fashion. I am talking true talent and beauty. Beautiful shapes, color, and originality are what I look for and always love a lead to a new designer to look and adore...even if from a distance.
Women Issues? Yes. As a lady, the issues that ladies face are important to me. I am in now way ashamed to say that I am a feminist because well, why wouldn't I be? I believe in myself as a woman and want equality and the best for women. Makes sense right? Feminist.
Inspiration? Wherever I can get it! Again, twenties, so I at times feel very lost in this world and inspiration keeps me hanging on. Wise words from loved ones and famous individuals will be shared. Plus, as a woman with lupus and fibromyalgia, some days are tough to get out of bed. Inspiration helps keep me on track!
Okay, I guess I filled my first blog post. What now?!
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